There is no answer. The sooner one gets this to sink in, the sooner moving on can begin.
It's human nature, no matter how hard we try to walk the right path and be good people, to tend to hide certain parts of us. Most of the time it's out of self-preservation. Sometimes we lie to avoid punishment for something we know we did wrong. We lie to prevent humiliation, when we feel what we are is not exactly what the other person wants. Maybe the lies are to create an alternate reality to our life, to enhance our social status. All understandable, we all feel we need to embellish the truth sometimes...but what when someone believes the lie? When someone falls for the snare? The snowball begins. It would've been so easy to lay the cards on the table from the beginning. Now you're stuck in something that has the potential of not only backfiring but also hurting someone that got stuck between your ego boost and the calculated steps you took to get to it.
There's always two sides to every ending. What is your side? How do you justify your lies...or half truths...or empty promises? In the end all three of those are lies. In the end, we all go through the same phase. Why.
What a word. Why. Why did he/she do this? Why doesn't he/she see deeply I feel? Why am I not good enough? Why did this happen? Bloody word. It drives us out of our senses for a while. I have yet to find another person that has gone through somewhat what I have gone through when it comes to relationships, that hasn't felt like it was something they did. That it hasn't shattered their self esteem. Yes, blah blah, we're at this whole letting go thing again.
We question, we ache and one day, it clicks. There is no answer to the why. Your lucky if you even get a sorry...but there is no answer to lies. Unless it's another lie, another denial.
We're all liars. We're all lied to. The reasons are the same, given a tweak here or there depending on the author and the purpose. "Why" will eat at you. Answer it yourself. It always happens for a reason, and that's as good an answer as anyone will come up with. It's not something you did, it's not punishment, it simply is. Stop asking. Stop waiting for the explanation. Get ready for the next 'why' coming your way.
"He who has a why to live can bear almost any how" - Friedrich Nietzsche
It's human nature, no matter how hard we try to walk the right path and be good people, to tend to hide certain parts of us. Most of the time it's out of self-preservation. Sometimes we lie to avoid punishment for something we know we did wrong. We lie to prevent humiliation, when we feel what we are is not exactly what the other person wants. Maybe the lies are to create an alternate reality to our life, to enhance our social status. All understandable, we all feel we need to embellish the truth sometimes...but what when someone believes the lie? When someone falls for the snare? The snowball begins. It would've been so easy to lay the cards on the table from the beginning. Now you're stuck in something that has the potential of not only backfiring but also hurting someone that got stuck between your ego boost and the calculated steps you took to get to it.
There's always two sides to every ending. What is your side? How do you justify your lies...or half truths...or empty promises? In the end all three of those are lies. In the end, we all go through the same phase. Why.
What a word. Why. Why did he/she do this? Why doesn't he/she see deeply I feel? Why am I not good enough? Why did this happen? Bloody word. It drives us out of our senses for a while. I have yet to find another person that has gone through somewhat what I have gone through when it comes to relationships, that hasn't felt like it was something they did. That it hasn't shattered their self esteem. Yes, blah blah, we're at this whole letting go thing again.
We question, we ache and one day, it clicks. There is no answer to the why. Your lucky if you even get a sorry...but there is no answer to lies. Unless it's another lie, another denial.
We're all liars. We're all lied to. The reasons are the same, given a tweak here or there depending on the author and the purpose. "Why" will eat at you. Answer it yourself. It always happens for a reason, and that's as good an answer as anyone will come up with. It's not something you did, it's not punishment, it simply is. Stop asking. Stop waiting for the explanation. Get ready for the next 'why' coming your way.
"He who has a why to live can bear almost any how" - Friedrich Nietzsche
very eloquently put. This blog is poignant and honest. "Why" will destroy us if we let it. You are right, move on, and look to the next why to come.
ReplyDeletelmao poignant. i should blog about that word...<3
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